Life, Love and All the Above - Facebook Parenting, For the troubled teen

I woke up this morning to check my email accounts and my facebook pages. Yes, I have more than one; one for business and one for personal. After going through all the R.I.P. Whitney Houston and We’ll miss you Whitney Houston posts I came across a video that read, “Facebook Parenting: For the troubled teen.” (FYI, not dismissing the passing of Whitney Houston because she will be missed).

One of my facebook friends posted it to his wall. Being a mother of 4, the title alone grabbed my attention. Especially since all 4 of my kids have a facebook pages. Anyway, I started to watch the video. The guy talks about his daughter and how she posted a letter to her parents on her wall. She had her settings set on private so that only the people on her friend’s list would see it. And guess who wasn’t on her friends’ list? You got it, her parents.

She goes on about how she hates her parents, she isn’t their slave, and she should get paid to do her chores…blah, blah, blah. Her father found out about the post because he was working on her computer; installing updates and a few other things. Now, his daughter was grounded prior to this because of this same problem and situation with her being disrespectful to her parents and other adults. He advised her that if it happened again, he wouldn’t go as easy on her.

Needless to say, being a teenager, she did it again. So while he was fixing her computer and putting the updates on it, he came across this letter. So he decided that enough was enough! I’m not going to tell you what happened in the video because I want everyone to be just as amazed as I was. (The video is included with this hub) But I will say this….KUDOS TO THE DAD for doing what he did. Especially towards the end of the video! I loved it.

The next thing on my mind was to go to this father’s facebook page to give him kudos. One of his posts really touched home for me and upset me to no ends! He posted that Social Services (or Child Protection Services for some states) got involved and wanted to talk to his daughter to see if she was being physically abused. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? (If you work for child services, I advise you to stop reading now!)

Not once in his video did he mention that he was going to put his hands on her. His words, grounded until college…..buy your own lab top….repay me for the money I spent on fixing and updating your laptop and so forth. How is that abusive? Child services in this day in age have seriously confused the words discipline and child abuse because they have nothing else to do. Anything to them constitutes as child abuse.

I, myself, experienced this B.S. I went to cosmetology school and I am skilled to cut hair. So I trimmed my daughter’s hair because her ends were split. I wanted her hair to be healthy but she wasn’t happy about it. She went to school, cried to the right teacher and they called child services. They advised me that I had abused my daughter because I cut her hair! Really? The B.S. was dismissed once a judge looked at the bogus report.

Child services are so quick to jump in your business with your kids for no valid reason that it is becoming ridiculous! Their message to these kids….. “Act up all you want to and as soon as your parents want to ground you, call us so that we can give you your way.” They are, more or less, giving these kids a thumbs up to act a fool and be disrespectful without repercussion.

To all the child service workers (that are still reading this) what are you going to do when these same unruly kids turn into law breaking adults and start filling the jail cells that you are paying for with your tax dollars? A quick tip for you all….learn the difference between discipline and actual child abuse!

Spend more time, money and energy on the kids that have physical and emotional scars from physical and emotional abuse and give the good parents space to discipline their children so that they are not menaces’ to society! KUDOS TO THE FATHER. I bet if he had to do it again, he would. Watch the video because it is a must see!